Life is a learning experience…………..

Sometimes in life you have to know when to zip it. I know this will shock many of you but I’m not very good at that. My mouth opens & and I just say what I feel. I’m a passionate person. I’m passionate about my family, my friends, my dogs, music & my occupation. Radio isn’t what it used to be but I still have a passion for it. With my passion comes my opinions. Not always a bonus.

Over a year ago I decided to get back into radio after taking a year off. I moved back to Columbia, SC from Charlotte, NC. BIG market difference in regard to radio. Charlotte is a big market…top 25 in the country. Columbia is a smaller market…I believe it is #91 in the country. Basically I took a step “down” in the radio biz. It was my choice though so I was fine with it. I lived & worked in Columbia from 2000-2006 and enjoyed it. It hasn’t worked out as well as I thought. At least not professionally.

Coming back to Columbia after spending years in Charlotte has been a bit difficult radio wise. Things here are not as organized. There is a “whatever” attitude towards many things and it makes me crazy. In Charlotte the station I worked for had integrity. Here it seems like no one cares. No matter what I do…radio, bartend, wait tables…I do it to the best of my ability. Very rarely do I “half ass” anything. It’s hard for me to grasp how others don’t care about what they do. I have expressed my opinion about certain things here in Columbia & have tried to implement skills I learned in Charlotte here. Not working. Yes I guess I am bitching but there’s a lesson here……….and the lesson is for me.

When I make suggestions about how things are implemented on-air, how things roll from a promotions aspect & how things are presented on social media I think I’m being helpful. It just dawned on me recently that others may think I’m being a bitch or being bossy. There’s a good chance that because of my passion my opinions sound condescending. It just hit me that my attitude may come across as “superior” because I was in a bigger market for so long. Change scares many people, including me, so maybe the changes I’m suggesting are throwing some folks off. Maybe it’s NOT that folks don’t care but that they weren’t taught the same way I was. I need to remember that just because it’s the way I learned doesn’t mean it’s right.

Now I don’t offer my opinions because I think I’m better than everyone else. That’s not it AT ALL! I just want the station I work for (whatever station it may be) to be the best that it can. There are certain things that you just don’t do in the radio business from an on-air stand point, from a promotions stand point and from a social media standpoint. As I said in the last paragraph I know that just because I learned something one way & others didn’t doesn’t mean that THEY are wrong. I’ve realized that I can’t control others. I can’t control the way all things roll in regard to work. I’m not in charge. I am only in charge of what I do & how I implement what I have learned over the years. Trying to push my opinions on others isn’t going to work. Even if what I’ve learned in the past can help the station progress, it’s not fair to others if I have the “my way or the high way” attitude. I need to figure out a way to express my opinions in a not so honest way. Sometimes honesty is NOT the best policy…..especially when the honesty comes from my mouth. I tend not to sugar coat stuff. I know…again…a shocker.

I learned this week that I need to “do me” and not worry about how others do their job. Yes, yes it drive me crazy & may make my OCD a bit worse BUT my doc rocks & will give me pills to calm me. I need to realize that when I want to yell “That’s not how it works..that’s not how any of this works” like the old lady on TV, that I need to yell it to myself. Or scream it in the car once I leave work. My roomie has taught me lots over the last year and her positive attitude is rubbing off on me. SLOWLY but…………….. 😉

I’m not trying to slam others. This lesson is for me. Just because others don’t share my passion doesn’t mean I need to try & give them suggestions on how they do their job. I need to shut it, walk away & keep my mouth shut. I now realize that the definition of “success” varies from person to person. Hopefully this blog doesn’t get me in trouble at work. It’s just me being honest.

Thanks for listening. I feel like I learned something this week and I hope others can relate. My Mom has always said “Life is a learning experience.” The older I get the more I realize my Mom is right.

As always, ROCK ON kiddies!
Mel

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